Don't count on threesome to "fix" your relationship
If your sex life is very miserable, you can make an adult conversation and let your partner know how your needs are not being met. You can see a couple therapist. The least thing you shouldn't do is expecting a new sexual experience to magically solve your problem. David Ortmann, a psychotherapist and sex therapist, says many couples often do this to cover up unresolved intimate relationship problems. Altman said:"If you have a threesome, because of the vapid sex life, then you need to figure out why sex is boring before you dive in the threesome." When the third one leaves, your intimacy relationship should still exists.
There should be an exhaustive conversation between you and your partner
Before you and your partner have a 3 way, you should talk about it properly. "The couple needs to maintain a solid foundation in sex and communication. They need to know what they want and why." Altman said.
Are you willing to invite an acquaintance to your bed or to create a couple's account on 3rder, a tinder for threesomes, to find a third? As a couple, do you want to find a man, or a woman to join the threesome? Is it necessary for third one to spend the night? Do you need a safe word? If someone feels uncomfortable and says a safety word, what is your exit plan? Maybe these questions will make you bored, but sexual and intimate conversations may be tedious, but they are the basis for an active experience.
Unless you, your partner, and your third person are in line with each other in terms of boundaries, expectations, and desires. You have to understand that things may not go according to plan. You may not be ready to attend 3 way. Talk to your partner about what you don't want to happen, what you want to happen, and what you expect from these 3 way experiences. Then, when you identify a potential third person, discuss all the issues and boundaries with him/her. The threesome should be like a well-arranged trip to a field you have never been to: preparing the trip, but also expecting unexpected things.
Safe sex precautions are necessary
Safe sex facilities, such as condoms and dental dams, are important in threesome. Your experience should be good memories, not sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancies. The condom is not just for the penis, any sex toys should be included. Maybe you and your spouse are monogamous, which means that you have decided to exchange fluids and have unprotected sex, but the third person you have brought in may be sleeping with other people. Before taking any action, it is crucial to discuss and make everyone's safe sex rules.